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Bullying Advice by Tom Letson NJ SAC LPC
Tips to Avoid Bullying Use the Poker Face Learn to Ignore
Don't Be an Easy Target Isn't it Ratting? A.W.A.R.E. Plan
How to Use Comeback Lines
The individual skills and strategies listed above are intended to help
empower kids when confronting bullying. The goal is two-fold: 1.
To discourage bullies by providing them with less of an emotional
pay-off and, 2. To bolster the victim's self-esteem by teaching
them to take back some control over the situation. Included are
avoidance, selective ignoring, appropriate verbal exchanges,
neutral/confident body language and facial expressions, and self
control. Teaching such skills to bullying victims is not researched and
some leading professionals in the field of bullying prevention believe
such skills promote the message that the victim is primarily
responsible for ending the message. For example, the following
excerpt is taken from the New Jersey Coalition for Bullying
Awareness and Prevention web site:
A note about bullying-related websites: There are a large number of
bullying-related websites (e.g., a google search for the term 'bullying' in
website titles gets about 700 sites), with the number growing rapidly
as media coverage of bullying grows and public awareness increases.
However, there are only a small number which are useful and (most
important) accurate (based on the science or "evidence-based'). An
example of a site not being useful or evidence-based would be a site
which promotes the message that bullied children are primarily
responsible for ending the bullying (e.g., by getting stronger in some
way, or by ignoring the bullying). (www.njbullying.org/links)
As a counseling professional dealing with children for over 20 years
I continue to be perplexed at such a position. Teaching students
how to appropriately confront and/or ignore the mean behavior of
another does not necessarily promote the message that they are
primarily responsible for ending the bullying. Teaching students
who are assessed as being good candidates to learn and use skills
to avoid and reduce the risk of bullying is comparable to the
rationale in teaching personal safety skills and tactics. For example,
if teaching rape prevention skills usually includes a strong
foundation of awareness, risk reduction and avoidance strategies,
why shouldn't bullying prevention?
(http://www.rad-systems.com/Articles/community.html) In fact,
teaching kids how to deal with bullying should be individualized -
what is good for one may not be good for another.
Tips to Avoid Bullying Use the Poker Face Learn to Ignore
Don't Be an Easy Target Isn't it Ratting? A.W.A.R.E. Plan
How to Use Comeback Lines
The individual skills and strategies listed above are intended to help
empower kids when confronting bullying. The goal is two-fold: 1.
To discourage bullies by providing them with less of an emotional
pay-off and, 2. To bolster the victim's self-esteem by teaching
them to take back some control over the situation. Included are
avoidance, selective ignoring, appropriate verbal exchanges,
neutral/confident body language and facial expressions, and self
control. Teaching such skills to bullying victims is not researched and
some leading professionals in the field of bullying prevention believe
such skills promote the message that the victim is primarily
responsible for ending the message. For example, the following
excerpt is taken from the New Jersey Coalition for Bullying
Awareness and Prevention web site:
A note about bullying-related websites: There are a large number of
bullying-related websites (e.g., a google search for the term 'bullying' in
website titles gets about 700 sites), with the number growing rapidly
as media coverage of bullying grows and public awareness increases.
However, there are only a small number which are useful and (most
important) accurate (based on the science or "evidence-based'). An
example of a site not being useful or evidence-based would be a site
which promotes the message that bullied children are primarily
responsible for ending the bullying (e.g., by getting stronger in some
way, or by ignoring the bullying). (www.njbullying.org/links)
As a counseling professional dealing with children for over 20 years
I continue to be perplexed at such a position. Teaching students
how to appropriately confront and/or ignore the mean behavior of
another does not necessarily promote the message that they are
primarily responsible for ending the bullying. Teaching students
who are assessed as being good candidates to learn and use skills
to avoid and reduce the risk of bullying is comparable to the
rationale in teaching personal safety skills and tactics. For example,
if teaching rape prevention skills usually includes a strong
foundation of awareness, risk reduction and avoidance strategies,
why shouldn't bullying prevention?
(http://www.rad-systems.com/Articles/community.html) In fact,
teaching kids how to deal with bullying should be individualized -
what is good for one may not be good for another.
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